If you would have asked me two, three, or five years ago what I would be doing, living in Ecuador would not have been one of my answers. Not because I didn't want to live in a foreign country. Not because I was afraid to travel. Not because I hadn't dreamed about living an unusual life. I just thought that it was a dream and was financially unobtainable; something only rich people do.
The second half of my life has been blessed with dreams. My BF has helped with that. Every dream I have had, he has helped make it happen.
On my 30th birthday I was alone. Raising 2 daughters. Looking at a future of hard work. I lived in fear and I wasn't happy.
Then I met my BF. I never dreamed of someone like him until he was "stalking" me at Torrejon AB in Spain (that was a dream too). I think I fell in love before he did, but it doesn't matter. We are together now, still best friends after 30 years of play and laughter.
Flash forward ten or so years. Ever since I was a child and I saw the Disney movie about the dancing horse, I had wanted a Paso Fino. On my 40th birthday - I had one. And not just any Paso, but a granddaughter of a world class Paso. She was amazing! She was a dream come true. She won ribbons and even won a class at the Rocky Mountain Regionals.
I raised sheep, llamas, and had an organic egg business for about 10 years. Why? Because I wanted to and the BF made sure I got to.
Then we moved to central New York state and another dream fell in my lap. With the help of my father and the BF, I was able to open a yarn shop. A yarn shop? Why? Same answer, I wanted to. It was fun. I made many good friends and miss them all so much.
But as with all good things, there comes a time when you have to let them go and focus on the next dream. The next dream was the BFs rather than mine, but that is alright. It was something we had been tossing around for almost 20 years. We had looked at Costa Rica back in the early 90s. My fears stole that at that time. The fear of change, the fear of not having enough money. Oh, and don't forget the fear of having young children and "What would they do?" It was all crap and I robbed my entire family of what may have been the greatest adventure of their lives.
When my BF mentioned vacationing in Ecuador I was puzzled. Why Ecuador? Well, he preyed on my love of all things Spanish. My love of the Spanish culture was the carrot he dangled in front of my nose.
"It is less expensive than Spain." he said.
"They speak Spanish there." he said.
"The U.S. dollar is the currency, so no exchange rate." he said.
"Buy the tickets and book the hotels and I will go with you." I said.
He did. We went. We went again. We sold everything and came back. To stay.
Now, we are living not only his dream but mine as well. I love the differences in the lifestyle, the ease of each day, the new sites and sounds and tastes.
Looking back at my life I see a trail of dreams fulfilled. Some by chance and others because of the wonderful man that I married. He helped me overcome my fears (there were many) and truly live. He helped me live out loud and be joyous. He allowed me to dream and never told me that dreams don't come true, no matter what your age.
They do! All you have to do is take the first step. Oh, and don't forget to take the next one as well.
This post was inspired by Cindy Wood, and her FaceBook post this morning. Thank you Cindy!